Fighting Discouragement in a Season of Waiting

Ello folks! Nice to see you all today! Lovely fall weather down here in the south with lows in the twenties and highs in the sixties and it’s just lovely!!! And I actually mean that…lol…

So, today I’ve got a post that I hope will be encouraging…but we’ll see. 😉

I’ve been feeling pretty discouraged lately. As if I’m stuck. Lately, every time I try to move forward it’s been like hitting a brick wall. I have plans, then God closes the door in my face and tells me, “Not what I have for you.”

That’s hard. So hard to accept. All my friends, that are younger than me, are going off to college, dating, getting married right out of high school (okay, so maybe that’s only one person), and here I am…working from home, never been asked out, never even been asked for my number! I can’t drive and when I applied for college they didn’t get back to me in time for me to get the proper paperwork together (I’m a homeschooled foster kid so we have special, extra paperwork we have to get together).

That being said…I’m feeling stuck. Last year I tried to do some ghostwriting work, landed two not-so-well-paying jobs, and then it petered out. I tried to buy a car, but it ended up having something wrong with it. Picked three different college majors only to find out each time that none of them had any job opportunities. Tried to get a literary agent for my book and all I got was rejection letter after rejection letter. You can imagine my frustration. Because every time I try to move forward God closes the door. Which leaves me wondering, why?

Do you ever feel like that? That every step you try to take forward ends up being two steps back? Like you’re clawing your way up the side of a mountain only to slide back down to the bottom? Never able to move forward or reach the summit? So, totally discouraged we come to the end of our rope and look up to say, “What do you want from me, God? Because You won’t let me move.”

And it’s in that moment…that He answers with two simple words.

“Be still.”

A task that feels impossible as everyone around you moves forward with their lives. Full speed ahead, siblings, friends, and even parents moving at a faster rate than you. But you are not them and you never will be. God has called you to a season of stillness. A season where you wait for His guidance. It may seem pointless, it may be irritating, and you probably wish you could just go forward, charge ahead, and finish the plans you have for this season of your life. And yet, God stands before you with His hand out.

“Be still.”

One simple command…and yet so hard to perform. Because what good could come from being still? What good can you do when you’re stuck, so to speak? If you aren’t moving forward in life then what are you doing? What is your purpose?

To live and grow in God right where you’re at. To acknowledge His plans for you and to let go of everything else.

I read Do Hard Things earlier this year with my sisters and was ready to run full speed ahead. I was ready to do hard things, big hard things. But sometimes the hardest thing of all is simply standing still. Waiting on God to give you the green light and say go. Because in that season of waiting we see everyone around us going and we want to be there. Josh is going to college, Shelby got married, Zach just asked Macy to prom, Molly got a new job, David is going to Africa to serve as a missionary and I’m stuck at home, doing nothing.

At least, that’s what you tell yourself, but trust me you are a far cry from doing nothing. You are growing spiritually, you are waiting on the Lord, you are learning patience, and you are helping at home…you are exactly where God wants you to be, learning what He knows you need to know for your future.

Instead of looking at it as being stuck, lagging behind…look at it as a training ground. God is teaching you through this time of stillness. Sure, we can try to break His plan (I did and was met with a brick wall), or we can surrender to His command and be still. We can suck it up and do the hard thing of waiting when all we want to do is run.

You are not your friends or siblings or even your parents, you are you. Your season of life may look different from everyone else’s, and it may not look how you want it to look, but trust me, it is exactly where God wants you to be!

So, the next time something in your life comes to a screeching halt, and you look up to ask God why, when He answers, “Be still,” listen. Slow down, take a deep breath, and submit to being still. Serve where you are in any way you can and wait for your green light, it might take a while…but when you’re ready, it will come. Because God’s in control.

Are you in a season of waiting? Do you find it hard to be still? What are somethings God has taught you in seasons of waiting? I can’t wait to hear from all of you in the comments!



Published by Kayti

Hi there, my name is Kaytlin Phillips, but I go by Kayti. I'm a homeschool grad, author, reader, and child of our Gracious King!!! I have an obsession with the written word, or maybe an addiction. Ever since I can remember I have read everything I can get my hands on! I LOVE BOOKS!!! I also love writing and might have a slight obsession with pens and notebooks, don't tell anyone. I also love the smell of old books! And yes, if you're wondering, I talk to myself, I think all bookishly crazy people do...

32 thoughts on “Fighting Discouragement in a Season of Waiting

  1. Wow. Talk about hard-hitting. This is fantastic advice and definitely something I’m going to be thinking and praying about. Thanks for writing it! It seems like a lot of the young writers I know are stuck in writer’s block or facing rejection letters or just plain uninspired and unmotivated. Perfect timing, Kayti. 😉

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  2. Thanks for this super encouraging post, Kayti! This was just what I needed to hear. Sometimes I really struggle with just being still and trusting in God’s plan. But you’re right. He has us right where He wants us to be, and we can use that time to grow closer to Him *hugs*

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    1. Aww, I’m so glad you enjoyed the post, Lily! Awww,!!! Praying for you, girl! ❤ *hugs you tight* You've been a big part of helping me through my waiting season!!! So thank you for being there for me!!!

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  3. Oh my goodness, Kayti, I love this! <3333 I'm so sorry to hear that you've been feeling like you're hitting a brick wall with life. I just wanna say that I am right there with you, sister. For the last several years actually, life has felt like nothing but trying to move forward and God keeping me where I am, even though I don't want to be where I am. And just when you wrote "be still," in that moment, honestly, it felt like God was saying that to me. Over the summer, after like three years, I finally accepted that God was asking me to wait. (Crazy how it took me that long. XD) And then I realized it wasn't a wait as in don't do anything, twiddle your thumbs, and stare at the wall kind of wait. It was a, this is a season of preparing you for what is to come so you must be still until I call you to go kind of wait. And when I started thinking of it like that, it made the waiting period easier. There were two song lyrics that God had brought to me when I was crying out to Him over why I was still waiting, that I wanted to share with you. The first is from John Waller's song "While I'm Waiting." It says: "I will move ahead, bold and confident. Taking every step in obedience. While I'm waiting, I will serve You. While I'm waiting, I will worship. While I'm waiting, I will not faint. I'll be running the race, even while I wait." And then the other one that really hit home was this verse in Hillsong's song called "Seasons" that says, "I can see the promise, I can see the future. You're the God of seasons. I'm just in the winter. If all I know of harvest is that it's worth my patience. Then if You're not done working, God, I'm not done waiting."

    So long, rambling comment aside, thank you for writing this. <33 I needed to hear it. It was encouraging to me. And also inspiring to know I'm not the only one who struggles with this. <3333 And I will be praying that God gives you peace even in the stillness and waiting.

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    1. Thank you! Yes, that’s definitely a good way to describe the feeling of having to stay in a spot you don’t want to be because you just want to keep moving forward. Amen, just because we are told to “Be still” doesn’t mean He’s telling us to do nothing, it simply means work where you are. Oh, “While I’m Waiting” is a great song! I love that one!!! Thank you so much!

      No, the comment is great, thank you for sharing! I’m glad to hear it was encouraging! Thank you so much! ❤ I'll be praying for you as well! <<<<33333

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  4. Hey Kayti, I just wanted to say THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU for writing this post!! For being so open about struggles that I know a lot of us can relate to!!! 💖💖💖💖 It was an encouragement to me to read that, and to have that reminder of sitting back and waiting on God (b/c if I try to get in the pilot’s seat instead of the co-pilot’s, it’s gonna be a crazy mess) God has amazing plans for you, I just know it!!!! *hugs* 🥰🥰🥰🥰🙏🙏

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    1. Aww, you’re welcome Sydney, thank you for commenting! Amen! We have to let God be the pilot even though letting go of control is so hard sometimes. Aww, thank you! My God hold you in the palm of His hand! *Hugs*


  5. *clears throat* GIRL. That was absolutely encouraging! And so powerful, Kayti, and wonderfully articulated! I almost teared up because I feel that same way sometimes and the command to “be still” just… really changes everything. It forces you to surrender your plans and everything to God, to trust ONLY in Him to give you just what you need, at just the right time. And it’s not something people talk a lot about – the “hard thing” of simply waiting. But it has just as much of a purpose as those big hard things you kinda wish you could be doing. Thank you so very much for sharing this!!! *hugs you* ❤

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    1. Awww, so glad to hear that! Haha, thank you…felt scattered *cringes* glad to hear it wasn’t lol….Yeah, sometimes the waiting can be overwhelming because there is so much you want to move forward and do but you haven’t received that greenlight yet. Amen, He will provide! Yeah, noticed that…everyone talks about what they are doing, but not people talk about when the Lord tells you to wait….I did find one book that’s really been great for me called ‘Before you Meet Prince Charming’ the title kind of throws you, but it’s not all about dating and boys a lot of is about waiting and what you can do during the waiting…it’s really got some good stuff in it.
      Of course, thank you so much for reading! *hugs*

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      1. Aww, yes, it was so good!!!! 😀 EXACTLY! Ooh, that book sounds really good… I should read that sometime. Absolutely! Thank YOU for writing the post!!!

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  6. This post spoke to my heart! I feel like I’ve been in a season of waiting for a long time and it’s hard. Like you said, you look at everything your friends are doing and everything they’re accomplishing… And you get discouraged. I’m discouraged. But I love how you said to look at it like a training ground! That’s exactly what it is. Thank you so much for this post!!

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    1. Aww, I’m glad to hear that! Yeah, it is so hard sometimes to just wait…especially when everyone else is going full speed ahead…Amen! Of course, thank you so much for reading and I’m so glad you enjoyed the post!

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